Books and Videos to Help your Child deal with Death
Books for Children:
A Quilt For Elizabeth
By Benette W Tiffault. The story of a little girl who has many different feelings after her father dies. With the loving guidance of her grandmother, Elizabeth makes a quilt from a box of Daddys old clothes.
How It Feels When A Parent Dies
By Jill Krementz We feel comfort when we know we are not alone. Children from the ages of 7 - 17 speak openly of their experiences and feelings surrounding death. They share photos with their surviving parent and with other family members.
Saying Goodbye to Daddy
By Judith Vigna and Abby Levine Clare. Hardcover. Clare is lonely and scared after the sudden death of her father during a car accident. Her mother helps her understand that it was not her fault.
Sunflowers and Rainbows For Tia
By Alesia Alexander Green Ages 8-12. Tia is angry when she is told her Daddy died. This book follows the family from the fathers death through the days following the funeral. Tia wonders what will happen to her family. She learns that family is always there to talk to and to care of her. Includes instructions for planting sunflowers in memory of the loved one.
The Brightest Star
By Kathleen Hemery Ages 8-12. A little girl, grieving the death of her mother, finds comfort in looking for the brightest star in the sky to remind her of her mothers love. Full of real feelings this book is truly special.
Books for Parents:
35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child
If you know a child or teen who has experienced a death, this guidebook presents you with simple and practical suggestions for how to support him or her. Learn what behaviors and reactions to expect from children at different ages, ways to create safe outlets for children to express their thoughts and feelings and how to be supportive during special events such as the memorial service, anniversaries and holidays.
Helping Children Cope with Death
This guidebook offers a comprehensive, easy-to-read overview of how children grieve and strategies to support them. Based on The Dougy Center's work with thousands of grieving children and their families, you will learn how children understand death, how to talk with children about death at various developmental stages, how to be helpful and when to seek outside help. This book is useful for parents, teachers, helping professionals and anyone trying to support a grieving child.
What about the Kids?
Understanding Their Needs in Funeral Planning & Services
This book addresses the best practices for funeral and memorial services with children and teens. Learn how to include children in these rituals and creative ways to involve them in the process. You will find suggestions from children and teens about what was helpful and unhelpful about the funeral or memorial service they attended.
Video for Parents:
Parents the following link leads to an article titled Helping your Child through a Death in the Family. On the right hand side of the article there are four video web casts from ABC News one of which is titled Anticipatory Grief: Preparing for the Death of a Loved One. Lisa Clark is the host of the web cast and she speaks with Benyamin Lirlin who works for the Center for Loss and Renewal and Patricia Donovan-Duff who works for the Bereavement Center of Winchester. Throughout this fifteen minute web cast these experts discuss the various aspects of death including from the childs perspective. http://coolnurse.healthology.com/focus_article.asp?f=mentalhealth&c=adult_orphans
Video for Parents and Children
Written by and featuring Dr. Wolfelt as well as actual bereaved children and their families, explores several key principles of helping children cope with grief. In use by hundreds of hospices and funeral homes throughout North America. http://www.centerforloss.com/catalog/productdetails.asp?WhichProduct=18